Last March when I was over in England to celebrate Mum’s 90th birthday, she surprised me by asking if I’d like to interview her about her life. Ninety years is quite a milestone and she’s lived through interesting times, no doubt, but while she’s happy to tell tales, she’s never been happy with the idea of microphones and systematic recording.
There’s a history. Twenty odd yeasr ago when my grandmother Debbie, Mum’s mother, was in her eighties I sneakily recorded her talking about the photos in a family album. When Gran realised what I was up to (and it was after I’d recorded more than half an hour) she made me go back and erase a couple of minutes when she’d said something critical or disparaging about Mum, but then let me carry on recording to the end of the tape. (It was a C90 casette, 45 minutes on each sides and I still have it.)
Later, Mum demanded to hear the recording and then tried to guess what her mother had said about her that she made me wipe. They were going through a difficult patch. Gran (as we discovered later) was slipping into an Alzheimers haze – though she was pretty sharp when talking about the family photos – but for years Mum not only couldn’t accept it, but was convinced much of Gran’s behaviour was motivated by spite against her.
Gran died in February 1992, and in March 2012, twenty years down the line, it may be that Mum had been thinking of my tape. I know she has been slowly going through her papers and her own photos and “sorting them out for you for when I’m gone”, though, so her sudden decision to volunteer may simply be a part of her campaign of tidying up and tying off loose ends. (Or a way of making sure her perspective on the family’s history is recorded.)
I couldn’t start interviewing her in March. I was on my way back home to Sweden, and besides for once I had no recording equipment with me.
So I flew home and thought about it and every so often when I was talking with her on the phone I would ask if she still wanted me to interview her. “Yes, of course,” she replied. OK then – fast forward to the tail-end of October.
At the time of writing I’ve interviewed her in two afternoon sessions and recorded about 3½ hours. Her earliest memories, her childhood, her parents and grandparents, uncles and aunts and one or two friends. She was born in Manchester in 1922 and grew up alternating between Manchester and the East End of London. Her father was a philanderer, every sprng he’d take up with a new young thing and her mother, in protest, would decamp to her parental home in London till wooed back by promises of a “new start”.
So far the story’s reached Mum’s 15th year. She left school at 14 to begin working as a clerk in a mail order company in Manchester. She’s had her first kiss (she didn’t enjoy it) and her first boyfriend (he was 20) and now her parents have just become wardens of the Youth Hostel in Ivinghoe in Bedfordshire. Big changes ae coming – it’s 1937.
I may publish a few extracts here later in the year.